hey I saw the bi woman using butch/femme post you reblogged and I just wanted to let you know that bi woman can't use butch/femme. Butch/femme is more than a label, it's part of lesbian culture. An aspect of it is being yourself and dressing and acting how you like But Not For Men, only for other lesbians. It's all about the complete exclusion of men. If bi woman are attracted to men, how can they be part of this culture?
Butch and femme identities have existed since a time when differentiating between lesbians and bi women wouldn’t have been as crucial and common as simply making it known you were a woman interested in other women.
They are not part of a lesbian culture. They’re part of the culture of women who love women.
That is our link and our solidarity. That we are women who love women. Cis women, trans women, lesbians, bi women, pan women, we are all unitied in our love and in our struggle.
When queer bars and groups faced violence and oppression in the past, do you think police and homophobes stopped and said “all the bisexual women here may leave. We’ll only assault the lesbians.” Do you think that’d happen now?
Get a grip. Bi and lesbian history is intrinsically and irrevocably intertwined.
On a personal note, the bi community is precious to me because I identified as bi for years before I realized I’m a lesbian, and my bi community supported me every step of the way and celebrated me when I came out as a lesbian. I don’t identify as bi anymore of course, but that identity was an important stepping stone that will always be a part of me. Many others have gone through the same journey. Others start out identifying as lesbians, then realize they’re bi. Do their butch or femme identities suddenly disappear? Does some lisence get revoked?
For reasons like this, the bi and lesbian communities are again, linked on a fundamental level that can’t be separated.
I appreciate and understand that you see butch and femme as identities which exist to deny the involvement of men.
However, for me, these identities exist to focus on the involvement of women.
That includes bi women.
You’re so focused on a bisexual woman’s attraction to men that you forget her love for women.
happy first day of pride to amab nonbinary people, bi women who love their boyfriends, bi men who love their girlfriends, straight trans people, and everyone still in the closet I hope y’all are having a good morning
something about the lighting of this danny gonzalez video is unnerving…idk it might also be his just-left-of-prettyboy face but this looks like a sad gay polish short film. like this is seconds before he finds out his best friend/lover died in the grain silo
Op ur experiences arent universal as they seem
just say it looks like a czechunter video. you know you want to
whats that
cool
My uncle blew up in a grain silo and he was shredded and i bed the grains that werent burning acted like shrapnel and it was so spontaneous and so so funny. He lived but he is a ruined man LOL
“sex scenes have no narrative purpose” is such a funny take on so many levels. people will really believe that the whole human experience is valuable to portray artistically except sex, which of course has never held emotional weight or significance for anybody
“what’s the purpose of sex scenes in media??” well you see sometimes people have sex. sometimes it can be important even
yeah ok but i dont wanna watch straight sex scene number 1231234837582 in the middle of some movie thats clearly not fucking high art or anything, like please, tell me how the sex scene made jason X a deeper movie ill wait
you genuinely think that “the sex scene in Jason X, the movie about jason from Friday the 13th killing people in space, is bad” is a rebuttal to this point? like genuinely? genuinely? like you think that’s the kind of sex scene I was talking about in the original post? you think when I’m talking about the artistic merit of sex scenes in movies you think I’m talking about the bit with the dominatrix in Jason X (2001) dir. James Isaac, the movie where Jason from Friday the 13th gets put in cryosleep and wakes up in the future on a spaceship where he starts killing people in outer space? you genuinely think this is the kind of movie and scene I’m referring to when I’m arguing for the potential artistic value of a type of scene? Jason X? Jason X? the one with Jason on a spaceship? you think that “well Jason X, the movie about Jason on a spaceship killing people in space, is bad” is a rebuttal to my point? Jason X? Jason X? J
Hayley Kiyoko is also just biphobic. Like she wrote an entire biphobic song with a biphobic video but if you try to talk about it you get told by non-bi ppl that it isn't serious lmao
Hayley Kiyoko writing a song called “Curious” about how dating bi women is uniquely traumatising because they will leave you for a man: no one can tell I hate bi women if i don’t call it “bi-curious”
Also wanna just add that it was mentioned the partner she was speaking of was still closeted while Kiyoko was writing this song.
She wrote a whole song about DEALING with someone who is in the closet and brushed off their relationship with a man as something done to hide her real feelings.
she also called it a “revenge” song like wow your gf struggling with coming out must be really hard for you…
also if you don’t want to date someone who’s in the closet just don’t date closeted people? have the emotional maturity to recognise you’re in different stages of your LGBT journey and are not compatible and just. don’t get involved. instead of pursuing a relationship you know wont work for you and then getting pissy about it
